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Introduction to Understand Yourself

Knowing Who You Are Is Key to Knowing Who Other People Are

BY ARLENE F. HARDER, MA, MFT


Pensive young womanMuch of what I present in this section is based on the philosophy of words that are purportedly inscribed in Westminster Abbey by a bishop. I cannot find confirmation of that, but whether or not the source is accurate, the words express my views exactly:

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country.

But it, too, seemed immovable.

As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it.

And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only changed my self first, then by example I would have changed my family.

From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.

If you want to understand yourself so that you can create happy and healthy relationships at work, at home, and in the world, in this section you will find five categories with twenty-four articles.

Below I have chosen just one article from each category to give you a flavor of what you will find in this section.


How You Became Who You Are: Did You Receive Encouragement?

Reaching Your Goals: Setting Goals With Confidence

Overcoming Obstacles: "Transcend" or "Transform" Problems?

Need Therapy or Coaching?: What Motivates People to Change?

Perfectionism: Perfectionist Personality Self-Test