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Introduction to Grieving

BY ARLENE F. HARDER, MA, MFT

Discover the power of transformation through loss, crisis, and grief

Green Island near Great Barrier ReefThere is no one who has not been touched by the loss of someone. And while we all grieve in a different way, I suspect that when our grieving is over, we almost all will understand what David Harkins said in this poem:

"You can shed tears that she is gone, or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her, or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her only that she is gone, or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back.

Or you can do what she'd want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on."

Most often on Support4Change I have used the space on the right of the page to tell you about books I recommend, or programs ranging from hypnosis to marriage counseling. However, I decided that for the pages in this category, and in the category of Facing the End of Life Together, that I should just choose pictures that reflect the tone of what I want to share.

Look at the articles in the navigation bar on the left to learn more about support for grieving.

Especially I recommend you watch and read I Still Remember Them.

© Copyright 2012 Arlene F Harder, MA, MFT