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A Dear Someone Poem

This fill-in-the-blanks poetry can help you express how you feel about the people in your life, both positively and negatively.

We've all wanted to tell a boss, teacher, neighbor, doctor, parent, child, or friend something important that is difficult to express. Many times we wait—wisely—until we have the words "just right." Often we only need half an hour to gather our thoughts effectively. Other times it may be weeks or months before we can carefully pull out the words that convey our feelings without destroying the relationship in the process.

If we're lucky, or wait long enough, the situation may resolve itself. More often it does not. We are sure that we have to say something. But what? How can we acknowledge our egos and emotions without allowing them to take over? How can we get past our frustration?

Fortunately, there is a vehicle to facilitate that process. It is call poetry.

In this fill-in-the-blanks form, This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it gives you a wonderful structure for a poem to imagine what you want to say to another person when you next meet him or her. It may be that after you've put your ideas down on paper (or typed them into the computer) you can actually share that poem with the person. Or it may be that simply writing your thoughts in this way can point toward a response you may not have considered before. Yet again, you may find that after expressing what you want to say through this particular medium—even though you don't share it with someone or discover the perfect words that could change the situation—you release some of the tension you previously felt.

Alysa is a good teacher for this type of poetry because she has used it in dealing with her experience of being a cancer patient. Also, she's taught this approach to others in a support group she facilitates. After you've read the following examples, perhaps you might want to use a form at the bottom of the page to share your thoughts with someone in your own life.


Dear Doctor

Dear Doctor
I would like to tell you
How angry I am
You tell me
"We'll take it one step at a time."
You tell me
"Be patient. Be a good sport."
You tell me
"We'll fix it all on the table."
I would like to tell you
There's no trust left; it's all gone now
So during our next appointment
With you standing there dressed
And me mostly naked, shivery in a paper gown
You'll ask me how I'm doing
I'll tell you straight, Doc, just fine
Doc, thanks for asking.

—Alysa Cummings


Dear People In My Life

Dear people in my life
I would like to tell you
how NOT to talk to a person with cancer
You tell me
I'm so brave
You tell me
I look good
You tell me
You know how I feel
I would like to tell you
That I'm scared to death, I'm bald and flat-chested, and you have absolutely no idea how I feel.
So during our next encounter
Ask me how I am; don't tell me
Ask me for something concrete you can do to help
Ask how something from my non-cancer life is going
Listen to me and validate me
And be there for me as you've always been.

— Member of a cancer support group


Sketch of feather pen drawing a line

WRITE YOUR OWN "DEAR SOMEONE" LETTER

REMEMBER: When you fill in the form, repeat the words before the parentheses

Print out this page and follow these instructions:

Dear (write name of someone you want to share your thoughts with)

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I would like to tell you (something you wish you could say directly)

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You tell me (something that person has said)

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You tell me (something that person has said)

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You tell me (something that person has said)

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I would like to tell you (put into words how that person makes you feel)

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So when we meet again (describe the scene and what will really happen)

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