February 24, 2010
Ask yourself questions about flexibility and inflexibility to help you better understand why a relationship between you and another person may be strained or broken.
These questions are part of a series on understanding how your personality affects your relationships, especially those that are strained or broken.
Exploring Your Personality #14: Flexibility and Inflexibility
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS
Does it take time for me to adjust to new situations and unexpected circumstances? If not, why do I think I am flexible? If so, why do I think I have trouble being flexible?
Would I like to roll with the punches better than I do? If so, how do I imagine I would do things differently?
To explore other questions and related material see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life and Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.
February 18, 2010
Ask yourself questions about creativity to help you better understand why a relationship between you and another person may be strained or broken.
These questions are part of a series on understanding how your personality affects your relationships, especially those that are strained or broken.
Exploring Your Personality #13: Creativity
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS
- Do I believe I am creative? If so, what do I have to show for my creativity? If not, why do I feel this way?
- Is there something I’ve been wanting to create for a long time and keep putting off? If so, what is it? What stops me from doing it?
- Does my creativity or the creativity of another person have a great deal to do with how we get along?
To explore other questions and related material see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life and Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.
February 11, 2010
Ask yourself questions about worry and self-doubt to help you better understand why a relationship between you and another person may be strained or broken.
These questions are part of a series on understanding how your personality affects your relationships, especially those that are strained or broken.
Exploring Your Personality #12: Worry and Self-Doubt
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS
Do I tend to be a worrier and self-doubter, overly-cautious, meek and predictable in interpersonal relationships? Why?
Do I tend to be easily fooled? Why?
To what degree do I avoid conflict and act inconsistent, indecisive and uncertain in order to reduce conflict?
To explore other questions and related material see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life and Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.
February 9, 2010
Ask yourself questions about your sense of guilt to help you better understand why a relationship between you and another person may be strained or broken.
These questions are part of a series on understanding how your personality affects your relationships, especially those that are strained or broken.
Exploring Your Personality #11: Guilt
What do I feel most guilty about in what I do or say? Why?
How do I express my guilt?
What rules of behavior do I most frequently break?
If an objective, kind observer were to watch me while I was doing these things, would he or she judge me as being as guilty as I feel? Why do I think this would be so?
ALSO: See Poverty Pulls at the Heart Strings post of this same date, exploring what happened in Quito, Ecuador.
February 1, 2010
Ask yourself questions about how avoiding difficult situations may affect a relationship between you and another person that is strained or broken.
These questions are part of a series on understanding how your personality affects your relationships, especially those that are strained or broken.
Exploring Your Personality #10: Avoiding Difficult Situations
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS
Do I react to stressful situations or reduce anxiety by letting someone else take care of a problem?
Do I tend to avoid contact with people, or put off doing a task, out of fear of failure or feeling my personal security, as opposed to physical safety, is threatened?
Am I sometimes jealous of people who seem to be open to experiencing life and growing in ways I won’t allow myself to be? Why or why not?
To explore other questions and related material see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life and Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.
Ask Questions About Relationships, Ask Questions About Yourself, Exploring Who You Are | Arlene F Harder MA MFT February 24, 2010 | 
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