Turn Insight and Intention Into Action

Turn Insight and Intention Into Action: Nine Effective Exercises to Change Your Relationships

BETTER TOMORROWS PROGRAM has five powerful components designed for healing strained and broken relationships.

If you want to know about the complete digital program, see Better Tomorrows Program.

On this page I describe a manual called T urn Insight and Intention Into Action that is a companion to Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, one of the components that can be purchased separately from the complete digital program.

You can read a dozen books that suggest ways you can change a relationship. You can listen to two dozen speakers on how you should try to view your situation differently, but if you don't put those suggestions into practice, they will only be words.

Words and intention need to turn into action in order for healing of a relationship to occur. That is why I have created this manual of exercises that illustrates and reinforces the focus of each chapter of Healing Relationships is an Inside Job.

In the section below you can learn about one of the exercises from the Better Tomorrows Program. (It is not included in Turn Insight and Intention Into Action, so if you buy this book you will have nine new exercises to help your relationship). However, it is one of over seventy exercises for healing relationships that are part of the Better Tomorrows Program.

HOW READY ARE YOU TO CHANGE A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS UNSATISFACTORY INTO ONE THAT IS?

Asking Yourself Some Key Questions Can Jump-Start the Change Process

In the Better Tomorrows Program you will find many ways to heal a strained or broken relationship. However, as you explore your options for improving any relationship, there are a few things that are most helpful to consider.

To begin with, you need to be honest about how much the discomfort, strain or rift in a relationship bothers you. As I say in Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, the best motivation for changing anything is pain. But we try very hard to avoid pain at all costs. Consequently, we often ignore problems in our relationships because it is easier than having to do anything about them because it would take us out of our comfort zone. Better to remain in denial that a relationship is not as satisfactory as you would like than to have to deal with an issue. That might involve work!

Next, if you are interested in improving and healing a strained or broken relationship, you will need to make some changes in what you think, do, or say. I realize, of course, that you may have already tried a number of things to improve the situation. And I would bet that you’ve certainly tried to get the other person to change. Now you’re stuck. What to do?

Unfortunately, the only way I know to get a relationship to improve is for one person (though hopefully both) to take a good look at (1) how much the relationship means to him or her, (2) how much discomfort that person has with the current situation, and (3) how willing that person is to change himself or herself. Yes, you may have already made changes, but it is likely that you will need to change even more.

To help you get ready for that change, I have devised a very simple exercise (you just need a piece of paper divided into three parts) to help you discover the possibility of successfully healing the relationship.

For example, if you are only mildly bothered by a problem in the relationship and not particularly willing to work hard on changing yourself to make it better, chances are that the relationship will remain as it is right now, whether or not the relationship is important to you.

On the other hand, if the relationship is extremely important, if you experience a great deal of pain even when thinking about it, and if you are committed to making whatever changes you have to make, your chances of success are very good.

Good luck.

EXPLORE YOUR RELATIONSHIP'S IMPORTANCE, YOUR PAIN, AND YOUR WILLINGNESS TO CHANGE

Begin This Easy, But Important, Exercise By Dividing a Paper Into Three Parts

In the first part of the paper write: “How important is this relationship to me?” Under that write the numbers 1 to 10. Use the numbers to decide whether your relationship is of no importance to you [1] or of extreme importance [10]. Where do you fit along that continuum?

In the second section of the paper write: “How much pain or discomfort do I experience in this relationship at this time?” Under that write the numbers 1 to 10. Here you decide whether there is no discomfort [1], in which case you aren’t likely to even be reading this, or your pain is so great that you absolutely can’t go on this way any longer [10].

In the third section of the paper write: “How willing am I to explore how I can change in order to help change the relationship?” Once more, under that write the numbers 1 to 10. For this final question, decide how willing you are to explore what you must do to change, from [1] doing nothing different than you’ve already done to [10] putting as much effort into the relationship as it is possible for you to make.

What Did You Learn?

If you seriously did this exercise and examined how you felt, you should get a fairly good sense of whether you are ready for a changed relationship.

NINE EXERCISES FOR NINE CHAPTERS

What Exercise Might Help You Turn an Unsatisfying Relationship Into a Satisfying Relationship?

There are nine chapters in Healing Relationships is an Inside Job. There are nine exercises in Turn Insights and Intentions Into Action that reinforce the lesson of each chapter.

CHAPTER ONE: Viewing Relationships From a New Perspective

Exercise: What Story Do You Tell Others About a Relationship That is Strained or Broken?

CHAPTER TWO: Discovering Who You Are

Exercise: How Does Your Brain Store Information About Your Self-Identity?

CHAPTER THREE: Exploring How You Became Who You Are Today

Exercise: Why Do You Think You Are Who You Are?

CHAPTER FOUR: Managing Your Emotions

Exercise: How Do Emotions Help or Hinder Your Relationships?

CHAPTER FIVE: Setting a Goal for Your Relationship

Exercise: What Are You Willing to Give Up in Order to Heal Your Relationship?

CHAPTER SIX: Letting Go of Guilt and Regrets and Learning to Apologize and Forgive

Exercise: How Will You Release Your Regrets?

CHAPTER SEVEN: Strengthening Your True Self

Exercise: What is the False Self at the Heart of Your Relationship Problems?

CHAPTER EIGHT: Preventing Ego From Destroying Love

>Exercise: Are You Ready to Manage Your Ego and Put Your True Self in Charge?

CHAPTER NINE: Managing Conflicts

Exercise: How Has the Story of You and Someone With Whom You Have a Strained or Broken Relationship Changed Since You Began This Book?

HOW CAN YOU BUY THIS MANUAL OF EXERCISES?

As you can see from the information above, the exercises in this manual reinforce the focus of each chapter of Healing Relationships is an Inside Job and are best done in connection with the book. In fact, that is the only way you can get this manual.

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