Death and Dying as an Integral Part of Life
BY Arlene Harder, MA, MFT
These articles address topics important to discuss during the death and dying process that are essential but often overlooked.
Death is mysterious, fascinating, and fearful. It's also a topic we do NOT easily discuss, although nothing is so certain as the fact that for all of us there will come a time when our life on this earth will end and our minds will no longer function, at least in the way we have experienced consciousness so far.
Consequently, to avoid looking at the reality that this will happen, we use all kinds of strategies, from pursuing the accumulation of material possessions to taking unnecessary risks.
Yet how we approach death has a lot to do with how we life, for being "the best we can be" includes the process of dying as well as living. Thus be begin this first of three sections on dying, death, and loss from the individual's perspective on the topic.
Roger C. Bone, M.D., was a physician who died of metastatasis of renal carcinoma and wrote beautifully and movingly on the topic in the booklet "Reflections: A Guide to End of Life Issues for You and Your Family" published by the National Kidney Cancer Association. They have kindly given us permission to use his writing and we begin with this from the bookIntroduction:
You and I Are Dying
Dying is a biological fact. To many it is a religious symbol.
Dying is something we all do. But it is also something we only observe in others at a distance.
Dying can be a peaceful event or a great agony when it is inappropriately sustained by life support.
Dying is a subject in great novels and small poems.
Emily Dickinson wrote:
Because I could not stop for Death —
He kindly stopped for —
The Carriage held but just Ourselves —
And Immortality. |
