Letting Go of Our Adult Children
When What We Do Is Never Enough
BY ARLENE HARDER, MA, MFT
This full-length book on dealing with grown children who haven't turned out the way we expected has been of great help to hundreds of people.
As many other parents have discovered, there are no guarantees that our children will turn out the way we expected. For starters, we may unintentionally fail our children in some fundamental way so they aren't really able to meet the standards we hold for them. Even more, because they have minds of their own, they can choose a lifestyle that we don't approve of or that we feel is less than they are capable of achieving.
Whatever the cause, in my case I had to deal with a son who became an alcoholic, chose for a time to live on the streets, and for a variety of reasons did not work for a living. As I struggled with tremendous guilt — and eventually came to terms with the reality of how my child had chosen to live his life — I realized that the road to letting go progressed through several essential steps.
I used this understanding in my private practice when I worked with parents whose grown children had a variety of problems. Then, incorporating what I learned from my clients and after interviewing many parents, some of whom were satisfied with the lives of their grown children, I wrote a book called "Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough," published by Bob Adams, Inc. in 1994. Because the book is now out of print, I decided to put the entire book on the Internet (until I find time to print a second edition).
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